by She was sitting by the ocean other day, lost in her thoughts happy and sad at the same time, asking the endless question of deriving meaning to her life , constantly thinking why She is happy at this moment but not the other person she is looking at? why happiness is not same for all ? Why something she sees is so peaceful for her but bringing tears in another person’s eyes ?
Happiness as she thinks about now a days totally depends on our surrounding, WHY ? Is it because our mind is trained that way , society has trained it that way , no system in the name of world is designed to drive happiness without any hidden cost around it. She always has this dream of happiness associated with so many materialistic things, be it new home, car, travel or anything, owning those will bring happiness is the mantra of life for most, but does it really ? To be clear she is not talking about pleasure or temporary happiness 🙂
She has seen so many people around her, driven by the society in a race to achieve happiness by competing with each other in having the ownership of materialistic items, which at later point will not be able to make them happy for the very known reasons, lack of satisfaction. She achieved one thing she wished for life and owning that makes her happy as she thinks but that feeling of wanting more triggers over the time and things she has achieved so far has lost the true meaning and brings no happiness whatsoever.
Achieving what she wished from her heart and mind is not bad, but owning just because her friend or neighbor has it is the real issue. Seeing and blindly copying others just for the sake of it bring no fruit to the life. Until she sees herself and understand that she being dependent on outer world for her happiness, she will never be able to bring that feeling of being satisfied and happy, no matter what. Once she was asked to look inside her heart, to get the answers she is looking, she took her time and tried hard to reach the depth of it, to seek what is missing and why is it missing, hard realization but the truth she found out is that she is missing the fact of “Self acceptance” or taking the ownership of herself, since beginning she was taught to seek approval for good or for bad, but it has to be approved by family,friends ,neighbors or society, no matter if her heart or mind accepts it or not.Realization is tough but when she is ready to challenge that and ready to accept good or bad but it is her choice and her decision brings back the missing aspect of life: happiness :).
There is a reason why big leaders at the end of there life teaches only one thing, you leave this world like you came in it “Empty and naked”.
Life, as vast as ocean, full of varieties and different species, multiple layers and different view, with heavy storms and strong waves can also be nourishing and fulfilling beyond boundaries which will surpass every obstacle and doubt she has ever had once she will realize the true meaning of being herself irrespective of what other’s think of her.
SHE.
